I started my new job with the kind of inflated confidence that comes with finally acquiring a fancy title and a salary that would pay off student credit card debts still lingering from 2012. I even bought a blazer with the ASOS voucher given to me as a leaving gift from my old team. I hadn’t worn a blazer since high-school so clearly, I meant serious business at this point in my life.
Like 49% of UK workers who took part in a LinkedIn survey, I consider a good relationship with colleagues as being one of the biggest factors for feeling fulfilled at work – so I was relieved to find that my new boss was a gem to work with. In those first two months, I enjoyed learning the ropes and taking advantage of the office perks. Then, I was moved to work under a different manager.
Six months later, I became part of the 41% of employees who told the same survey that they left a job due to being unsatisfied with the leadership. My days were spent crying in the loos, doubting my abilities, questioning my work ethic, losing all confidence and becoming withdrawn from the team. I felt worthless. But it wasn’t because I was swamped with deadlines, dealing with a shouting boss or being told I was a failure. Bizarrely, it was the complete opposite…
… The impact that this type of behaviour can have on staff is huge and includes mental stress, anger, anxiety and lowered motivation. “Gaslighting is bullying,” Evelyn Cotter, CEO of SEVEN Career Coaching tells me. “If someone is consistently behaving in a way that undermines you or your work, that is malicious behaviour and classed as toxic.” And I’m certainly not the only woman to have experienced this kind of behaviour in the office. Recently revised research from UNISON and Portsmouth University found that six in 10 workers had been bullied or had witnessed bullying.
Where to begin! I’ve just spent a truly transformative 6 months working with Oliver from SEVEN. I was feeling really stuck when I started thinking about coaching. I had a seemingly great job, lots of friends, a supportive family but somehow I was feeling unfulfilled and anxious and wondering if this was it? I had an idea of what I wanted my life and work to feel like but I felt completely at a loss as to how to achieve it. After an incredibly inspiring telephone conversation with Evelyn from SEVEN she suggested Oliver as a coach and so it began. I had no idea how empowering it would be to have someone in my corner whose soul aim was to help me become the best possible version of myself and make those daydreams a reality. The amount of energy and enthusiasm that he injected into our sessions was infectious. He provided me with endlessly interesting and helpful resources and was brilliantly creative in his approach to our sessions. Oliver has helped me work out what I need in my life to make it feel fulfilling and exciting. He has also helped me to value my unique skills and strengths and to devise a strategy for using them more effectively at work and in my personal life. As a result of my work with Oliver I've restructured my work so that I can focus on what I love, I’ve negotiated a more flexible set up at work so I can travel more and I feel empowered and more confident in my personal relationships than I ever have before. Perhaps most importantly. I now feel like I’m in charge of my life and I can achieve the things that once thought were beyond my reach.
I can say with utmost confidence that Oliver from SEVEN has completely reinvigorated my career, helping to open up new opportunities for the future. He did this by helping me find the core of who I am and then use these skills to the best of my abilities.
When we first started working together, I felt completely off-course and didn’t know which way to turn in my career. Through a series of engaging and creative exercises we worked together to tackle the issues that were holding me back, clarify my career trajectory, focus my values and discover my leadership style.
In each session, Oliver always had an infectious, optimistic energy that helped make this such a rewarding experience for me and each time I felt energised to take the next steps in my journey. I’ve completed our time together with such a deep appreciation for what he does. My career has taken leaps and bounds, and I’m now armed with the techniques to help me grab each and every opportunity in a way that is most beneficial for me.
This is a well organized and helpful service. Marcie led me through an analysis of all my strengths, a visualisation of where I want to be, and gave me some great suggestions for improving my CV and interview skills to get there. I don't hesitate to recommend them!
I started coaching with SEVEN a few months ago and have found the experience extremely helpful. They paired me with the perfect coach, Jo, and not only do I feel more hopeful and energised after each session but I have also started taking active steps towards achieving my goals. Thank you for everything - money well spent! Jen
I really enjoyed working with Jo from Seven. I was looking for some help for increasing confidence and bringing passion to my working career and she was the appropriate person. The coaching process boosted my confidence with immediate results, allowing me to excel in presentations and formal conversations. I would definitely recommend her to anyone suffering from a true lack of confidence but willing to go forward with positive solutions.
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